Stone Oak, San Antonio
An independent nurse who checks on your parent in Stone Oak
Stone Oak has one of the highest concentrations of senior living in the city. If yours is in one of those communities and you live somewhere else, I'll go and see how they actually are, then tell you plainly.
Why families in Stone Oak call me
The communities up around 281 and 1604 are newer and larger than the ones inside the loop, and size cuts both ways: good facilities up here are very good, and in a big building an individual resident is easier to lose track of. That is the gap I fill. It is a long way north for family flying in for a weekend, which is usually when people call me.
Independent
I don't work for the facility, the agency, or anyone who bills your family. Nobody there signs my paycheck, so nothing I tell you has to be softened first.
Unannounced
If people know you're showing up, they're going to act accordingly. Nobody gets a warning I'm coming, so what you hear about is an ordinary day.
In writing
After every visit you get plain-language notes on what I saw: your parent, their room, their care, and anything I'd want to know if it were my mother.
Plain language
No clinical shorthand and no jargon you have to decode. If I wouldn't say it that way on the phone, I don't write it that way either.
No conflict of interest
I take no referral fees and I have no arrangement with any facility or placement service. I work for the families and that's it. I have to stay unbiased. That's my whole thing.
I visit across greater San Antonio, including Alamo Heights. If your parent is somewhere else in Bexar County, just ask.
What a visit coversHow it works
Four steps, and you can stop after the first one
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We talk first
You tell me about your parent, where they are, and what's been nagging at you. No medical details needed over email. We can cover that on the phone.
- 02
I go, unannounced
I show up, and whatever I see, I let the family know. I spend real time there, not a five-minute walk-through.
- 03
You get it in writing
A written report in plain language, sent to you directly, with what I saw and what I'd ask about next.
- 04
You decide what happens next
Some families want one visit and nothing more. Others want me in there twice a month, or four times. That's your call, and it can change.
Questions from Stone Oak families
FAQ
Are you connected to the facility in any way?
No. I'm not employed by, contracted to, or paid by any facility, agency, or care provider. I'm hired by the family and I report to the family. That independence is the entire service. It's why the report is worth reading.
Do you need the facility's permission to visit?
In a facility I visit as a guest of your family, the way you would. Visiting rules vary, and I'll walk you through how that works for your parent's situation when we talk. If they're in their own home there's nobody to ask — you and your parent decide, and I come when it suits.
My parent is still in their own house. Is this for them?
Yes, and for a different reason. In a facility there are people checking on them — they're just the same people being paid to provide the care. At home there's often nobody checking at all between your phone calls. Either way I come in, look properly, and write down what I found. Staying in their own home is theirs to decide; I'm not there to talk them out of it.
Do you examine them, or do you just look around?
I examine them. I'm a registered nurse, so I take their weight and vital signs and I check the things a nurse checks: skin, mobility, appetite, pain. What I don't do is take over their care or change anything their doctor has ordered. I assess, I write it down, and I tell you what I'd ask about.
Not sure whether something's wrong?
That's usually the right time to call. Tell me what you're seeing and I'll tell you honestly whether a visit would help.